Chapter 2: Finding Kevin Samuels
I grew up particularly innocent and sheltered in many ways. I was the second of six kids growing up. My parents were married. Their parents were married. Their parents parents were married. I am on of 10 kids and my father owned a large software company in the midwest. The area I am from is white middle class catholic America. I would say I was particularly sheltered from the realities of the world because I was insulted by money, religion, and race to some degree. I had never seen a fight at school and honestly I was too involved in sports and extra circulars to be overly worried about the drama that was going on with other people. Crime was nonexistent. I was not super accustomed to seeing infidelity growing up because most people were married. There were instances of infidelity sure, but nothing like the widespread nature that you see today….or at least out in the open. My father is the greatest man I have ever met. He is a good person, a great person. My dad does not drink, does not smoke, and never cheated. I always say that if a camera crew followed him around in a day people would not believe how productive he is.
In 2020, I was pursing a YouTube areer when I came across a Kevin Samuels video titled “High Value Men Cheat”. Kevin samuels was a southern gentleman with a talk show where women called in asking for dating advice. I had never heard a man be so assertive and direct with women like he was. One of the first episodes I saw was Kevin Samuels with a caller on the line who confessed she was divorced because her husband cheated. The woman opened up about her failed marriage and Kevin Samuels leaned in and said “did he throw the infidelity in your face?” “Well ma’am it was stupid to break up your home over that. High value men cheat. They have EARNED the right to cheat."
My first reaction was what in the hell am I watching…..what is this stuff? Who on earth is advocating for a woman to ACCEPT cheating
I was OFFENDED. (Women am I right)
My sheltered life thus far had not thrown that reality completely in my face quite yet. II was offended on behalf of my father. Kevin Samuels described high value men and my father fit a lot of the metrics he described. I knew my dad’s character and cheating just is not something he would do. Why would Kevin Samuels say that men like my father have the right to cheat. That would completely destabilize the entire bedrock of society. That is terrible for children…what is this dude talking about...still I could not look away.....something about it rang true deep in my soul.
There was another YouTuber who I saw stating this point also. This was Myron Gains. Myron had a debate show where he talked about the nature of women. Myron argued that men are biologically wire to cheat and that is just part of their nature and high value men do in face cheat. If a man makes a certain amount of money, he has that right. He had many shows where he spoke about how high value men cheat and again I completely disagreed with him. My dad never cheated - this just cannot be a generalization you can make., so I went on his show and debated him on the topic. Again, he was wrong wasn’t he? How could he say that….I knew so many men that made good money that never cheated. I went so far that I actually went on the show and argued that point to his face. We agreed to disagree, but I moved on
Let’s fast forward to where my world view collapsed……and I had to come back and say that they were right…. ( I hate doing that I am a woman)
In 2023, I had one of the biggest YouTube shows in the United States…..I had a traditional conservative worldview. Marriage is the answer. We need to bring back monogamy and the family unit.I interviewed a peltera of people counting over 1000 people I had on my show. Being that I was right wing, I had a string of conservative influencers on my show that claimed that they were not cheaters and would never do these things. They would argue that red pill guys are just degernates. I loved having conservatives on. They proved me right that not everyone cheats and that is not the norm. There were all these guys who agreed with me! I think back there was one in particular fella who red pilled me on cheating. This was a guy that spoke out against the red pill advocating for cheating. He said that is simply not true. FINALLY, an influencer who got it…..not everyone cheats and does these trashy things….that is just the men that are in media…..right? He was conventionally attractive, had clout, well connected, and was in good shape. If he of all people was saying that high value men do not cheat then he had to be true.
Being that I interviewed over 1000 women in London, there were times when women would open up to me about their dating lives and show me the man or men they were dating. As you know living in a major city...people talk....There was one day after a show where a young woman excitedly told me she had been going out with a famous guy. I said “who” and she gleefully showed me a picture of the influencer that had been on my show. “Cute” I thought. they would be good together. They would be a good couple. Unfortunately, it was cute for like a day until another girl came on my show and told me the same thing. To be fair I am sure the nature of their relationship and it is was exclusive. We all know how girls say they are dating seriously a guy who its casual with, but can we be honest here. How is that any different than cheating? The physical act of hooking up with multiple is it really super different? The conservative guys maybe found a workaround out of a technicality but how are they any different than the red pill guys..... My worldview collapsed right then in there….oh my gosh these dudes are full of shit….They are just trying to get laid by the women dumb enough to believe it….
Myron and Kevin Samuels were the only ones being honest.
This same instance happened over and over with influencers until I just could not ignore it anymore….
Now as a side note...
I will offer one caveat though….I would argue it is not necessarily about men having money if they cheat (although that helps and with the sugar baby and escort culture that is one route) it is more about how much female attention they get and if they are aware of it. There is a divide between men over 40 and under 40 that are not on social media. If a man has been married for a while he may not know how many options he has or the skill of seduction.
If I were to put metrics to it
- Does the man have a string of attractive women he has dated
- How into the man were the women?
- Does he have a network of women he can call for sex if he wants it
- Does he have the ability to get laid easily or semi easily
Upon seeing these situations first hand here is what I will say
Men cheating is not necessarily about the money they have. It is more dependent on
- How guilty they feel about cheating
- How good of a seducer they are
- How much female attention they get
The issue with the high value man framework is that it makes it seem that if a man achieves a certain level of money and success that he will automatically get women and in a modern society that is simply not how it works. There are lots of nerdy rich guys who cannot get laid. Women that are young and hot pick men based on their looks and ability to seduce far more than money. (in my observations)There is also a difference between men over 40 and under 40. So many men that came before the digital age have no idea how many bitches they could get and if they did a lot of men would fold under that pressure, so a lot have no idea what they would do with that power.
So my conclusion? Not all men cheat, but the ones who are given the chance to? More will take the chance than not take the chance if the woman is attractive enough and they think they will get away with it. Sometimes, people have no idea what they would do if they were given the power of a super attractive person…..
This is why I do consider men like Kevin Samuels and myron gains heroes because they are the few that are HONEST about these realities where the entire world is lying to us about it. Think about the amount of flack both of those guys got for being honest about what these other guys are doing who virtue signal about being pure
thanks for reading....till next time...